“I am jealous of a man I have to see every week.”
If this is your sentence tonight, you are not the first to say it — and you are not being told anything is wrong with your iman. The tradition wrote down, in detail, what a person does about exactly this: not the theory of it, the treatment of it. Named masters, named books, numbered steps, and how long each one takes.
Two rules before any practice, and they are the tradition’s rules, not ours. First: one practice at a time, kept for two weeks, before you consider a second — the rush is the problem, not the cure. Second: do the practice and leave the result alone. Do not take your own spiritual temperature afterwards; the checking is itself a turning away.
The practices the book sends you to
- Give to the one you envy Five minutes a day, for seven days
- Making dua for someone else Two minutes a day
- Find him seventy excuses Under a minute, at the moment it happens
- The deed that cannot be traced to you One hidden act a week, plus a seven-day silence
- Bearing the person who irritates you Monthly + moments
Where the first one comes from
Ghazali treats envy in Book 25 of the Ihya’, the Condemnation of Anger, Rancour and Envy. He defines hasad precisely: not wanting what he has, but wanting him not to have it. His cure is not reflection — it is forcing the limbs to praise, serve, and give until the heart, embarrassed, follows. The Qur’an closes Surat al-Falaq by asking refuge from the envier when he envies (113:5).
The full instructions — every step, what may change, the honest note, and the shariah note — are in the book, along with all 120 practices in order and the complete Index by Problem.
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